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I turn 53 on Saturday. And apparently, the moon decided to show up for my birthday too. Not just any moon. A full Harvest Moon. I smiled when I learned that. Because if I had been asked to choose a moon to mark the ending of my 52nd year and the beginning of my 53rd, I don't think I could have chosen one more fitting. The Harvest Moon has always been associated with gathering bringing in what has grown, taking stock of what the season produced, and collecting what is worth ca

Growing up in New York in the ’70's taught you something about sound. You learned that some of the best music didn't come polished. It came through a boombox with batteries barely holding on, a cassette dubbed so many times you could hear the ghosts of other songs underneath it. It came from somebody dragging turntables onto the block, finding electricity wherever they could, and turning concrete into a dance floor. Maybe that's why OR Our Reality feels a little like hip-hop

There was a friend who once told me, during one of the darkest seasons of my life, that I carried a light. A light that quietly invited people closer. One that made strangers feel safe enough to lay down their armor and speak their truths. Recently, someone else told me I have kind, warm eyes. Eyes that revealed intention. Nurturing. Compassion. I smiled because they were seeing the woman I've always been. The woman beneath the survival. But age has taught me something my you

There is a strange kind of beauty in a home occupied by one soul. It is peaceful. Predictable. Every plant sits exactly where I left it. My matcha waits on the same shelf. My bed is made or not because I decided. The music that fills these walls belongs to my mood alone, and silence has become a trusted companion instead of an unwelcome guest. Living alone taught me something I never expected. It taught me that solitude is not the same as loneliness. Solitude is the warm blan

It's remarkable how quiet the world becomes after you've spent so long trying to make sense of noise. The same wound kept reopening. Different conversations. Different promises. The same ending. Somewhere along the way, I realized I had accepted a role I never auditioned for a player on the bench, faithfully dressed for a game I was rarely invited to play. The love was dazzling. Or maybe the love bombing was. It arrived like stadium lights flooding a dark field, so bright it

These days, my dopamine comes in quieter doses. Driving toward the beach before the world wakes up, watching the sky soften as the sun rises and if I’m lucky, catching the full moon lingering in my rearview mirror. Shopping for myself without guilt. Long walks alone with my favorite music filling the silence. Going to the gym and feeling my watch buzz to remind me I completed my exercise goal for the day. Traveling back home to see my best friend and eating all of our favorit

As I get older, I’m learning who my core relationships truly are. The circle gets smaller not because of bitterness, not because of walls, but because judgment finally arrives. And I’ve made peace with that. I no longer reach for outside noise when I’m at my most vulnerable. I used to. I needed it once. But now, I understand that not everyone deserves access to my softest moments. Selectivity isn’t isolation, it’s self-respect. When I was married, communication was one of our

I was born and raised in a big city, one that breathed diversity, contradiction, and progress long before it was trendy to do so. I grew up surrounded by languages blending into one another, cultures colliding in beautiful ways, and people who looked nothing alike but somehow shared space anyway. As a Latina woman, that environment didn’t make life easy, but it made it real . It taught me empathy early. It taught me to listen. It taught me that humanity is layered and complex

When I started this blog I spent time writing and unpacking where I came from. My childhood. The early days that shaped how I love, how I protect myself, and how deeply I feel.Those stories mattered because they explained how I survived. But this chapter isn’t about survival anymore. I t ’s about evolution. After ending a 20-year marriage one that should have ended long before it did I found myself standing in unfamiliar emotional territory. I wasn’t broken or lost, I was raw

Sitting with yourself and reflecting on emotions

You weren’t meant to be mine. You arrived on our stoop that Christmas morning like a question the universe whispered softly —and my heart answered before my mind ever could. My nurturing took over before I knew it had, and you learned my scent the way souls do quickly, instinctively, as if you had always known me. Within months you were sleeping tucked into my body, curled into any open space I made for you as I folded myself into sleep. You were so tiny. So light the world

You wore familiarity like a borrowed last name.Called yourself family when no blood ever bound usonly proximity, only convenience,only the quiet permission I gave during a seasonwhen my own foundation was cracking beneath me. You played the part well.Too well. Others noticed before I did.Friends tilted their heads when you spoke my name.Family raised eyebrows at the way you hovered,the way your concern felt less like careand more like ownership dressed as loyalty.They called

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They say every woman has a root the place her story first split the soil and began to grow. Mine was tangled.Not soft or sheltered. It sprouted through trauma, watered by silence and secrets. My roots weren’t nurtured they survived. And survival shaped every part of who I became: strong, cautious, fiercely independent, yet aching to be soft. I was raised in chaos, taught love through dysfunction, and learned early on how to hold myself together when the world didn’t. That kin